HELD
The emptiness it consumes me
I try and fight it but I just can’t win.
I reach out for something, anything to fill me
But all I gain
Is more grief more pain more confusion
Then through the gloom and the shadows
I see something, someone reaching out for me.
And I hear him saying
Come to mc.
I will fill you, I have been with you
When you were in pain
When your grieving and
Even when you were confused.
Watching
Waiting for you to call for me
All the time calling for you
But you couldn’t hear me.
I wanted to hold you,
I wanted to heal you.
But you won’t let me
Lord. Lord I cry as I run into his arms
And just as he said he would he did
He held me
He rescued me
When I thought that nothing could.
When it seemed so hopeless,
He gave me hope
He gave me the one thing I needed to be filled with
Not money, not attention,
He filled me with something not of this world
He filled me with his love, his peace and his never ending grace.
And he said he will always be by my side
Holding me, in his arms of protection
And I have faith that he will do just that.
By: KT Best
11-7-06
http://www.coach-charles.com/
Monday, November 24, 2008
Monday, November 3, 2008
Disciple Makers: Prayer Letter 11-03-08
Dear fellow disciple maker, In the past month I have been reading a couple books which I believe are valuable to anyone who wants to grow in both being a disciple and in making disciples. These books are: Irresistible Evangelism, by Steve Sjogren, Dave Ping, and Doug Pollock, and Growing True Disciples, by George Barna. These are both available on Amazon. Let me share a thought from Barna. He says that “Discipleship is not a program. It is not a ministry. It is a life-long commitment to a lifestyle.” He would say that this lifestyle is “being a follower of Jesus Christ (is) an all-consuming obsession.” Page 19. One further quote that I think is important. “Discipleship…is about being and reproducing spiritually mature zealots for Christ.” To all this and much more I say a hearty “Amen”. This is what I am all about. And I will push you to enable you to pursue Him and His mission the same way. Following Christ is not like following the Yankees. Pray: 1. for a band of men and women to be raised up here who will pursue following Him with growing passion and into which I can contribute, my life. Pray: 2. For the following key guys and gals: Steven, Brook, Sharon, Ken, Mark, Al, Barb, and Matt. Pray that they would be single hearted in their love for and pursuit of Jesus Christ. Pray that He would become their all consuming obsession. Jesus want not to be first in our live, but everything. Pray 3. That neither I nor Myrna, get tired of pouring our lives into these people and others that He is bringing into our lives. One way to define discipleship, according to Barna, is the becoming a complete and competent follower of Jesus Christ. He goes on to say, “it is about the intentional training of people who voluntarily submit to the Lordship of Christ and who want to become imitators of Him in every thought, word and deed.” My prayer for you is that you would take this eminently seriously. “Go and make disciples” was the last thing Jesus said before going to His father. Barna says that, “Not one of the adults we interviewed said that their goal in life was to be a committed follower of Jesus Christ or to make disciples.” Friend, what is your answer to this question? Love, Charles Powell Acts 2:42-47
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Thursday, October 23, 2008
Commitment to Christ a reality, not a profession
"Mediocrity and hypocrisy characterize the lives of many avowed Christians, at least in part because of our default answer to the salvation question. Anyone can, and most Americans do, "believe" in Jesus rather than some alternative savior. Anyone can and many Americans sometimes do, say a prayer asking Jesus to save them. But not many embark on a life fully devoted to the love of God, the love of neighbor, the moral practice of God's will, and radical, costly discipleship."
David P. Gushee, Jesus and the Sinner's Prayer
Christianity Today
Disciple Making: Developing Reproductive Disciples
"If Christians around the world were to suddenly renounce their personal agendas, their life goals, and their aspirations, and begin responding in radical obedience to everything God showed them, the world would be turned upside down. How do we know? Because that's what the first century Christians did, and the world is still talking about it.
—Henry and Richard Blackaby
in Spiritual Leadership, 2001
Tuesday, July 22, 2008
Coaching at its Best, International
Coaching at its Best, International: "Coaching at its Best
Coaching for business or for life can be a transforming process. You discover what you really want if you do not already know, and then design a way to achieve it.
Because of your interest I am gifting you one session of thirty minutes of coaching and a fifteen minute debrief a week later.
This is absolutely without cost or obligation to you. You can experience coaching and discover how it can enhance you life and business.
Coach Charles Powell, MCC
Contact me here!
http://cli.gs/ueyNNE
Coaching for business or for life can be a transforming process. You discover what you really want if you do not already know, and then design a way to achieve it.
Because of your interest I am gifting you one session of thirty minutes of coaching and a fifteen minute debrief a week later.
This is absolutely without cost or obligation to you. You can experience coaching and discover how it can enhance you life and business.
Coach Charles Powell, MCC
Contact me here!
http://cli.gs/ueyNNE
Wednesday, July 9, 2008
Monday, June 30, 2008
BENEFITS OF COACHING
How is a person’s life better with a coach?
1. MORE MONEY
‘Most clients report that they are netting or saving more money after 6-12 months with a coach. ‘When you focus on money and use the coach as a guide, you’ll probably make more of it. ‘A coach can help you significantly reduce your expenses and develop new ways to earn more.
2. MORE OF LIFE
‘A coach works with all of you and helps you integrate what works and get rid of the rest. ‘A coach helps you set goals that mean more to you; no "should’s, could’s or ought to’s”. A coach expects you to invest in the quality and depth of your life and helps you do it, too.
3. MORE OF A NETWORK & COMMUNITY
‘Personal and professional success comes much more easily when you have a strong network. ‘The coach will work with you to attract high quality people and opportunities. ‘The coach will help you strengthen the network and community you already have.
4. BETTER DECISIONS
‘When you are willing to discuss ideas and concerns with someone who is independent yet subjective, you’ll usually make better decisions. ‘A mirror always helps. Winners are always willing to get feedback and ideas from others. ‘Sometimes a coach acts like an insurance policy and points out the danger areas you can’t see.
5. FASTER DEVELOPMENT
‘If you’re interested in “growing yourself,” the coach can double your rate of development. ‘The coach can help you zero in on the blocks and resolve them so you can move forward. ‘Some coaches work with clients who are ready to complete their development.
6. FEWER PROBLEMS
‘A coach will help you extend your boundaries so far that trouble stops coming near you. ‘A coach often helps a client to significantly raise their standards so that problems aren’t caused! ‘When the client is working on goals that express their values, they have less chance for mischief.
7. GREAT TO HAVE A PARTNER
‘Nothing worth doing is worth doing alone. ‘When you’re a company leader, you NEED someone to hang with and discuss the tough stuff. ‘With a coach, you have a partner who won’t keep the profits. ‘With a coach, you have a partner who won’t quit.
YOU GETTING THE MOST OF YOUR COACHING.
1.Tell your coach what to ask of you.
2.Report (email or fax) daily.
3 .Tell her what’s REALLY not being handled or is holding you back.
4.Tell her how to acknowledge and encourage you -- we all have our special needs here.
5.Ask her how she perceives how you come across and how strong a client you are.
6.Accept her requests of you and GO FOR IT vs. resisting.
7.Ask her to make changes in the quality of HER life.
8.Point out what she does well with you and encourage more of that.
9.Tolerate nothing between you; step over nothing.
1O.Be grateful that you have a coach.
Coach
http://cli.gs/ueyNNE
1. MORE MONEY
‘Most clients report that they are netting or saving more money after 6-12 months with a coach. ‘When you focus on money and use the coach as a guide, you’ll probably make more of it. ‘A coach can help you significantly reduce your expenses and develop new ways to earn more.
2. MORE OF LIFE
‘A coach works with all of you and helps you integrate what works and get rid of the rest. ‘A coach helps you set goals that mean more to you; no "should’s, could’s or ought to’s”. A coach expects you to invest in the quality and depth of your life and helps you do it, too.
3. MORE OF A NETWORK & COMMUNITY
‘Personal and professional success comes much more easily when you have a strong network. ‘The coach will work with you to attract high quality people and opportunities. ‘The coach will help you strengthen the network and community you already have.
4. BETTER DECISIONS
‘When you are willing to discuss ideas and concerns with someone who is independent yet subjective, you’ll usually make better decisions. ‘A mirror always helps. Winners are always willing to get feedback and ideas from others. ‘Sometimes a coach acts like an insurance policy and points out the danger areas you can’t see.
5. FASTER DEVELOPMENT
‘If you’re interested in “growing yourself,” the coach can double your rate of development. ‘The coach can help you zero in on the blocks and resolve them so you can move forward. ‘Some coaches work with clients who are ready to complete their development.
6. FEWER PROBLEMS
‘A coach will help you extend your boundaries so far that trouble stops coming near you. ‘A coach often helps a client to significantly raise their standards so that problems aren’t caused! ‘When the client is working on goals that express their values, they have less chance for mischief.
7. GREAT TO HAVE A PARTNER
‘Nothing worth doing is worth doing alone. ‘When you’re a company leader, you NEED someone to hang with and discuss the tough stuff. ‘With a coach, you have a partner who won’t keep the profits. ‘With a coach, you have a partner who won’t quit.
YOU GETTING THE MOST OF YOUR COACHING.
1.Tell your coach what to ask of you.
2.Report (email or fax) daily.
3 .Tell her what’s REALLY not being handled or is holding you back.
4.Tell her how to acknowledge and encourage you -- we all have our special needs here.
5.Ask her how she perceives how you come across and how strong a client you are.
6.Accept her requests of you and GO FOR IT vs. resisting.
7.Ask her to make changes in the quality of HER life.
8.Point out what she does well with you and encourage more of that.
9.Tolerate nothing between you; step over nothing.
1O.Be grateful that you have a coach.
Coach
http://cli.gs/ueyNNE
Wednesday, June 25, 2008
The Cat in the Wall
CAT IN THE WALL
When they were building the Gresham Station Mall in Gresham, Oregon .This is an outdoor mall, where each of the shops looks like a store by itself. Quite a nice effect, I think. In anycase, one of the stores was nearing completion. The inside had been finished, the carpeting done and it was ready to be occupied. One day a young man was observed listening carefully and intently to the wall from outside the Eddy Bauer Store. As he was acting somewhat strange many people were curious about what he was doing. He went to the manager and explained, "There's a cat in the wall, I hear a cat." They went outside and listened by getting down on the sidewalk. Soon, they found a way to see the cat, but were unable to get it out. The manager called the construction people and they cut open the wall and freed the cat. One of the employees took the cat home. Can you guess what she named the cat? That's right, she named it Eddy.
Lesson: If we listen carefully, we may hear something no one else can hear and it might, just might help a great deal.
http://cli.gs/ueyNNE
When they were building the Gresham Station Mall in Gresham, Oregon .This is an outdoor mall, where each of the shops looks like a store by itself. Quite a nice effect, I think. In anycase, one of the stores was nearing completion. The inside had been finished, the carpeting done and it was ready to be occupied. One day a young man was observed listening carefully and intently to the wall from outside the Eddy Bauer Store. As he was acting somewhat strange many people were curious about what he was doing. He went to the manager and explained, "There's a cat in the wall, I hear a cat." They went outside and listened by getting down on the sidewalk. Soon, they found a way to see the cat, but were unable to get it out. The manager called the construction people and they cut open the wall and freed the cat. One of the employees took the cat home. Can you guess what she named the cat? That's right, she named it Eddy.
Lesson: If we listen carefully, we may hear something no one else can hear and it might, just might help a great deal.
http://cli.gs/ueyNNE
Monday, June 23, 2008
Change = attitude
“We can change any situation
by changing our internal attitude toward it.”
— Harry Emerson Fosdick
by changing our internal attitude toward it.”
— Harry Emerson Fosdick
Sunday, May 25, 2008
A Poem to God
There is within me true and bright,
A love for You, Lord, that is pure and right.
Your love has filled my soul with fire,
You have become my heart’s desire.
The beauty of Your wondrous grace
Bids me come and seek Your face.
To bend my knees before your throne,
To worship you and call heaven home.
To seek your face is my heart’s cry,
And into your presence, there I would fly.
—Charles Powell
4-5-2004(revised 12-10-05)
A love for You, Lord, that is pure and right.
Your love has filled my soul with fire,
You have become my heart’s desire.
The beauty of Your wondrous grace
Bids me come and seek Your face.
To bend my knees before your throne,
To worship you and call heaven home.
To seek your face is my heart’s cry,
And into your presence, there I would fly.
—Charles Powell
4-5-2004(revised 12-10-05)
Monday, March 10, 2008
Disciple Making: Developing Reproductive Disciples
A BRIEF DESCRIPTION OF A PROPOSED INTENTIONAL DISCIPLE MAKING PROJECT
“…as you are going, make disciples….” Matt.28:19, 20
This proposal is intended to be information only, and in general will reflect my viewpoint on doing disciple making within the local church. It draws on about 24 years of experience in making disciples. It is intended to be a source of support for those wanting to see a church become more intentional with regard to producing disciples. It is not to be taken as a criticism of any program, effort or plans already in place or in consideration. Coach Charles Powell, MCC
Part 1: The stages of production of laborers.
I. A description of the Stages under consideration:
Stage 1: Conversion progressing through discipleship. (Recruit)
Stage 2: Discipleship progressing through ministering. (Train)
Stage 3: Ministering progressing to being a Laborer. (Send)
II. Stage 1: Conversion progressing through Discipleship: Discipleship is another way of saying living the Christian Life, by growing in the grace and knowledge of God. It is essentially the development of skills, foundations and a life which honors God. Ideally it would commence at the time of conversion and continue throughout the disciple’s life. Often this is not done, or if done, more by coincidence than by intent. Most churches seem to have this method by default.
A. Discipleship is one of the best ways to describe the committed Christian life.
B. Discipleship at this level is committed to developing skills for living the life of following Christ. It has essentially six elements: Christ the center of one’s life, obedience to the known will of God, knowledge of the Scripture and the tools for learning the Word, knowing how to talk to God, fellowshipping with believers and witnessing. Every Christian needs these six things, which if in place guide the disciple in pursuit of God and in the propagation of the Gospel.
C. These things can be learned in various ways, but mentoring is the most likely way to produce best results, things are better caught than taught.
D. The evidence of this would be that the disciple continues to practice these skills for the rest of their lives. It is hard to say enough about the seriousness of being skillful in these fundamentals without which the Christian life becomes mediocre. So, however it is done, it must be done.
E. These skills are fundamental to the life and should be constantly worked on so as to be the best one can be under God. It is the best you can be that is the measure, not the best you can be compared to others.
III. Stage 2: Discipleship progressing through to developing a Ministry.
A. In general, I see this stage as the development of ministry skills. By this I mean that the now maturing disciple begins to carry on a ministry where they help reach, and mature new believers under the mentorship of a Disciple Maker who is further along.
B. This is more or less dealing with character and performance in helping someone else mature, and while there certainly are skills involved in this, the focus is on the heart that the disciple has for God and for others. It is as Paul said of Timothy, “I have no one like him, who will genuinely care for you.” Phil. 2:20-22. The Disciple in Ministry cares deeply for others.
C. My general term for this stage is Disciple Maker. (Note that these terms for this come from The Navigators and were used in the 60-70’s)
D. Disciple making is a skill and an attitude of obedience to God. It is a mentored relationship with a more mature Disciple Maker.
IV. Stage 3: Ministry of Disciple Making to becoming a Laborer (Matt.9:37-38)
A. A laborer or equipper in this kind of ministry is one who has a growing sense of God’s intent to use him to reach out and to disciple those around him and seeing that this responsibility extends to all the world.
B. This stage can involve many kinds of training, such as Bible School, seminary, specialized training, coach training, etc. Some of this can be done on a local scale, within a given structure, i.e., the church.
C. Depending on the location, purpose and indications of God’s Will the training may involve various experiences beyond the scope of an individual trainer, or disciple maker.
D. This stage builds on the fundamentals of the first two stages and requires, beyond performance a commitment to fulfill the Great Commission.
E. There is a lot more which, at this stage remains undefined as the disciple maker extends the scope of his passion for the glory of God and the extension of His Kingdom.
Part 2: The skills, attitudes and qualities that a disciple maker endeavors to impart. You can communicate knowledge, train in the fundamentals and shift character and commitment.
Part 2 Personal Christian Life Skills (The Fundamentals): (Not in order of importance, but the sequence is partially included)
(This list is neither complete nor comprehensive.)
1. Following Christ, as Lord.
2. Being completely obedient to the known will of God.
3. Knows and behaves the Scripture through hearing, reading, studying, memorizing and meditating on it.
4. Prayer, both personal and intercessory, both alone and with others.
5. Fellowship with others, primarily in the church, those of a similar heart, those willing and committed to following Christ at any cost.
6. Witnessing, testimony, tools, etc.
7. Follow-up, moving a new believer from infancy to young to maturity.
8. Being Discipled, learning how to disciple, ministering to individuals.
9. Ministry to people, other believers, being sympathetic, supportive.
10. Discipling experience, even internship
11. Developing world vision.
12. Giving to those who teach you.
13. Giving to those who are involved in the work of missions.
14. A growing Desire for God and His glory regardless.
15. A ongoing commitment to communicate the Gospel world wide.
16. A heart(passion) for the individual.
17. A heart(passion) to serve.
18. A godly attitude(passion) of Trust in Him
19. A team player(a passionate desire to see the team do its best)
20. A team leader
21. Being an example
22. A commitment to finish well.
23. Knowledge of and support of other works
24. A willingness to continue to grow.
25. A passion to be the best one can be.
Note: Passion seems to come naturally or not at all. I seems to grow through relationship and through having a model of someone who is totally caught up in a vision, in this case, the vision of what God can do through the one totally given over to Him. God would that we all were.
Part 3: A Short Annotated Bibliography
Adsit, Christopher B., Personal Disciple Making, Here’s Life Publishers,1988
A very comprehensive treatment of the whole realm of disciple making and well written guide to step-by-step guide for leading a Christian from the new birth to maturity. This is a serious book and well written. It suffers from the possibility of being used as a cookbook, where the DM goes to look for ways to do something. It is better for helping the DM develop his vision and performance overall.
Bennett, Ron Intentional Disciplemaking: Cultivating Spiritual Maturity in the Local Church, Navpress. See also his book The Adventure of Discipling Others.
This is an introduction to how the church can develop a disciplemaking plan and implement it. Book is brief, but well written.
Eimes, Leroy, Lost Art of Disciple Making, The, This is one of the original books on disciplemaking and certainly worth reading. It provided input for the Adsit book above.
“…as you are going, make disciples….” Matt.28:19, 20
This proposal is intended to be information only, and in general will reflect my viewpoint on doing disciple making within the local church. It draws on about 24 years of experience in making disciples. It is intended to be a source of support for those wanting to see a church become more intentional with regard to producing disciples. It is not to be taken as a criticism of any program, effort or plans already in place or in consideration. Coach Charles Powell, MCC
Part 1: The stages of production of laborers.
I. A description of the Stages under consideration:
Stage 1: Conversion progressing through discipleship. (Recruit)
Stage 2: Discipleship progressing through ministering. (Train)
Stage 3: Ministering progressing to being a Laborer. (Send)
II. Stage 1: Conversion progressing through Discipleship: Discipleship is another way of saying living the Christian Life, by growing in the grace and knowledge of God. It is essentially the development of skills, foundations and a life which honors God. Ideally it would commence at the time of conversion and continue throughout the disciple’s life. Often this is not done, or if done, more by coincidence than by intent. Most churches seem to have this method by default.
A. Discipleship is one of the best ways to describe the committed Christian life.
B. Discipleship at this level is committed to developing skills for living the life of following Christ. It has essentially six elements: Christ the center of one’s life, obedience to the known will of God, knowledge of the Scripture and the tools for learning the Word, knowing how to talk to God, fellowshipping with believers and witnessing. Every Christian needs these six things, which if in place guide the disciple in pursuit of God and in the propagation of the Gospel.
C. These things can be learned in various ways, but mentoring is the most likely way to produce best results, things are better caught than taught.
D. The evidence of this would be that the disciple continues to practice these skills for the rest of their lives. It is hard to say enough about the seriousness of being skillful in these fundamentals without which the Christian life becomes mediocre. So, however it is done, it must be done.
E. These skills are fundamental to the life and should be constantly worked on so as to be the best one can be under God. It is the best you can be that is the measure, not the best you can be compared to others.
III. Stage 2: Discipleship progressing through to developing a Ministry.
A. In general, I see this stage as the development of ministry skills. By this I mean that the now maturing disciple begins to carry on a ministry where they help reach, and mature new believers under the mentorship of a Disciple Maker who is further along.
B. This is more or less dealing with character and performance in helping someone else mature, and while there certainly are skills involved in this, the focus is on the heart that the disciple has for God and for others. It is as Paul said of Timothy, “I have no one like him, who will genuinely care for you.” Phil. 2:20-22. The Disciple in Ministry cares deeply for others.
C. My general term for this stage is Disciple Maker. (Note that these terms for this come from The Navigators and were used in the 60-70’s)
D. Disciple making is a skill and an attitude of obedience to God. It is a mentored relationship with a more mature Disciple Maker.
IV. Stage 3: Ministry of Disciple Making to becoming a Laborer (Matt.9:37-38)
A. A laborer or equipper in this kind of ministry is one who has a growing sense of God’s intent to use him to reach out and to disciple those around him and seeing that this responsibility extends to all the world.
B. This stage can involve many kinds of training, such as Bible School, seminary, specialized training, coach training, etc. Some of this can be done on a local scale, within a given structure, i.e., the church.
C. Depending on the location, purpose and indications of God’s Will the training may involve various experiences beyond the scope of an individual trainer, or disciple maker.
D. This stage builds on the fundamentals of the first two stages and requires, beyond performance a commitment to fulfill the Great Commission.
E. There is a lot more which, at this stage remains undefined as the disciple maker extends the scope of his passion for the glory of God and the extension of His Kingdom.
Part 2: The skills, attitudes and qualities that a disciple maker endeavors to impart. You can communicate knowledge, train in the fundamentals and shift character and commitment.
Part 2 Personal Christian Life Skills (The Fundamentals): (Not in order of importance, but the sequence is partially included)
(This list is neither complete nor comprehensive.)
1. Following Christ, as Lord.
2. Being completely obedient to the known will of God.
3. Knows and behaves the Scripture through hearing, reading, studying, memorizing and meditating on it.
4. Prayer, both personal and intercessory, both alone and with others.
5. Fellowship with others, primarily in the church, those of a similar heart, those willing and committed to following Christ at any cost.
6. Witnessing, testimony, tools, etc.
7. Follow-up, moving a new believer from infancy to young to maturity.
8. Being Discipled, learning how to disciple, ministering to individuals.
9. Ministry to people, other believers, being sympathetic, supportive.
10. Discipling experience, even internship
11. Developing world vision.
12. Giving to those who teach you.
13. Giving to those who are involved in the work of missions.
14. A growing Desire for God and His glory regardless.
15. A ongoing commitment to communicate the Gospel world wide.
16. A heart(passion) for the individual.
17. A heart(passion) to serve.
18. A godly attitude(passion) of Trust in Him
19. A team player(a passionate desire to see the team do its best)
20. A team leader
21. Being an example
22. A commitment to finish well.
23. Knowledge of and support of other works
24. A willingness to continue to grow.
25. A passion to be the best one can be.
Note: Passion seems to come naturally or not at all. I seems to grow through relationship and through having a model of someone who is totally caught up in a vision, in this case, the vision of what God can do through the one totally given over to Him. God would that we all were.
Part 3: A Short Annotated Bibliography
Adsit, Christopher B., Personal Disciple Making, Here’s Life Publishers,1988
A very comprehensive treatment of the whole realm of disciple making and well written guide to step-by-step guide for leading a Christian from the new birth to maturity. This is a serious book and well written. It suffers from the possibility of being used as a cookbook, where the DM goes to look for ways to do something. It is better for helping the DM develop his vision and performance overall.
Bennett, Ron Intentional Disciplemaking: Cultivating Spiritual Maturity in the Local Church, Navpress. See also his book The Adventure of Discipling Others.
This is an introduction to how the church can develop a disciplemaking plan and implement it. Book is brief, but well written.
Eimes, Leroy, Lost Art of Disciple Making, The, This is one of the original books on disciplemaking and certainly worth reading. It provided input for the Adsit book above.
Sunday, March 2, 2008
Participatory vs. Directive Change
Distinction: Participative change Vs. Directive change
Originally Submitted on 9/2/99.
Definitions
Participative change - Change initiated and executed by the participants
Directive change - Change initiated by a leader and executed by the participants
Comparisons
Team vs. Leader Cooperative ownership vs. Compliant ownership
Self-directed vs. Hierarchical
Example
The hierarchical model is being used less and less, with a flatter, more cooperative form developing where every member is a "change agent."
Key Point
Involvement is the key to enthusiastic participation. Neither participative nor directive change making is better than the other and in fact both are necessary. Both require clear direction and participation.
Benefits
Increased commitment to the process is the result of greater involvement in its formulation. The talents, skills and abilities of more of the participants are applied to getting the task(s) defined and accomplished in times of great change.
Related distinctions:
Direction vs. Control Effective vs. Efficient Lead vs. Manage
About the Submitter
This piece was originally submitted by Charles Powell, MCC, Personal Life and Christian Life Coach, who can be reached at sinapup@excite.com, or visited on the web. Charles Powell wants you to know: he is especially skilled at assisting clients in learning phrasing that makes a difference in their success
Originally Submitted on 9/2/99.
Definitions
Participative change - Change initiated and executed by the participants
Directive change - Change initiated by a leader and executed by the participants
Comparisons
Team vs. Leader Cooperative ownership vs. Compliant ownership
Self-directed vs. Hierarchical
Example
The hierarchical model is being used less and less, with a flatter, more cooperative form developing where every member is a "change agent."
Key Point
Involvement is the key to enthusiastic participation. Neither participative nor directive change making is better than the other and in fact both are necessary. Both require clear direction and participation.
Benefits
Increased commitment to the process is the result of greater involvement in its formulation. The talents, skills and abilities of more of the participants are applied to getting the task(s) defined and accomplished in times of great change.
Related distinctions:
Direction vs. Control Effective vs. Efficient Lead vs. Manage
About the Submitter
This piece was originally submitted by Charles Powell, MCC, Personal Life and Christian Life Coach, who can be reached at sinapup@excite.com, or visited on the web. Charles Powell wants you to know: he is especially skilled at assisting clients in learning phrasing that makes a difference in their success
Sunday, February 10, 2008
Distinction: Active Listening Vs. Quiet Listening
Distinction: Active Listening Vs. Quiet ListeningCategory: More Distinctions: A superb coaching tool (CY209)
Originally Submitted on 9/1/2000.
Definitions
Active Listening - Listening so as to hear all that another person is saying.
Quiet Listening - Listening so as to feel all that the other is feeling.
Comparisons
Hearing 100% of what is being transmitted both information and feeling vs. Hearing so as to come to empathetically understand the other Seeks to understand the other person vs. Seeks to feel what the other is feeling Not listening just for information vs. Not being passive
Example
Active listening is used with situations, often difficult ones, where the listener needs to know what is happening and the speaker needs to feel heard. It is used in adversarial situations where there is confusion and distress such as exists sometimes between parents and their children, or teachers and their students. Quiet listening is used more often as a sympathetic ear to hear what another is going through. Friends frequently listen quietly to us, as do counselors or therapists.
Key Point
Both types of listening are valuable. Active listening tells the other you understand, whereas quiet listening communicates that you care. Each seeks to identify with the speaker by paying attention to the other in a way appropriate to the speaker's state.
Benefits
Learning to listen both ways will enable one to solve problems, deal with misunderstandings, clarify perspectives and heal relationships. People need to be heard and to know that you care.
Related distinctions
Listening with the heart vs. Listening Listening with the eyes vs. Listening Authentic listening vs. Authentic expressing
About the SubmitterThis piece was originally submitted by Charles Powell, Professional Business Coach, who can be reached at www.coach@coach-charles.com. Charles Powell wants you to know: he is especially skilled at assisting clients in learning language that makes a difference in their success.
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Definitions
Active Listening - Listening so as to hear all that another person is saying.
Quiet Listening - Listening so as to feel all that the other is feeling.
Comparisons
Hearing 100% of what is being transmitted both information and feeling vs. Hearing so as to come to empathetically understand the other Seeks to understand the other person vs. Seeks to feel what the other is feeling Not listening just for information vs. Not being passive
Example
Active listening is used with situations, often difficult ones, where the listener needs to know what is happening and the speaker needs to feel heard. It is used in adversarial situations where there is confusion and distress such as exists sometimes between parents and their children, or teachers and their students. Quiet listening is used more often as a sympathetic ear to hear what another is going through. Friends frequently listen quietly to us, as do counselors or therapists.
Key Point
Both types of listening are valuable. Active listening tells the other you understand, whereas quiet listening communicates that you care. Each seeks to identify with the speaker by paying attention to the other in a way appropriate to the speaker's state.
Benefits
Learning to listen both ways will enable one to solve problems, deal with misunderstandings, clarify perspectives and heal relationships. People need to be heard and to know that you care.
Related distinctions
Listening with the heart vs. Listening Listening with the eyes vs. Listening Authentic listening vs. Authentic expressing
About the SubmitterThis piece was originally submitted by Charles Powell, Professional Business Coach, who can be reached at www.coach@coach-charles.com. Charles Powell wants you to know: he is especially skilled at assisting clients in learning language that makes a difference in their success.
Copyright 97, 98, 99, 00, 2001 CoachVille
This content may be forwarded in full, with copyright, contact, and creation information intact, without specific permission, when used only in a not-for-profit context. For other uses, permission in writing from CoachVille is required. Questions: email topten@coachville.com
Saturday, February 9, 2008
My Personal Chiropractor - Dr. Steven Prom, D.C.
This marvelous chiropractor is the one I have seen almost weekly for a number of years. It is wonderful to see this aclaim. http://www.docprom.com
Coach Charles http://www.coach-charles.com
Saturday, January 12, 2008
Life Coaching - Benefits and Results
Coaching is an old method of promoting growth as well as a modern method. Coaching was used in the educational system as far back as the 13 century and in many senses continuing to be and do it this way up to the early nineteen hundreds. Originally it was the way that the colleges in England conducted their education. Oxford and Cambridge being two of these colleges and they did some of this up until the First World War. Early on, with the start of collegiate sports, the tutors, then called 'coaches' were used to conduct the practices for these sports, such as cricket, rugby, etc.
Coaching is also a relatively new profession, although we have had music coaches, drama coaches and so forth. Today's modern business coach engages in a method for helping people improve, develop, learn how to do new things, find personal success, achieve aims and goals, manage their lives and meet personal challenges. All coaching is personal or life coaching, and even though it is called other things, works to develop the individual internally. The chief thing that coaching does that differs from mentoring, consulting or counseling, is that it draws the solution out of the client. In other words, the coach draws out, rather than gives out. The coach does not have the answer, but relies on the client to reveal how they will be able to change and develop. Coaching develops rather than imposes, being reflective rather than directive. Coaching is not prescriptive or teaching. Rather it enables the client to discover their own strengths and their own solutions. Some changes will deal with one's personal affairs and others with how they do business wise. Coaching covers many aspect of individual performance, attitudes, and goal. For instance a client may benefit from personal or life coaching, coaching to change their life, such as parenting, personalgrowth, self-fullfillment and self-discovery. Career coaching works on areas such as advancement, or job choices , leadership and management, sales and business success, corporate performance and leader development.
Coaching is about getting the very best out of the one being coached. It is a form of enabling the client to make decisions that will enhance their life. Some people hire a coach to help them climb the corporate laddeer faster, feel more fulfilled at work, improve relations with everyone, especially family and co-workers. Some seek a coach to help them with their spiritual lives.
Whatever your reasons for hiring a coach, there's one out there for you.
If you want me to coach you, go to http://www.coach-charles.com/ and use the contact me page
Coaching is also a relatively new profession, although we have had music coaches, drama coaches and so forth. Today's modern business coach engages in a method for helping people improve, develop, learn how to do new things, find personal success, achieve aims and goals, manage their lives and meet personal challenges. All coaching is personal or life coaching, and even though it is called other things, works to develop the individual internally. The chief thing that coaching does that differs from mentoring, consulting or counseling, is that it draws the solution out of the client. In other words, the coach draws out, rather than gives out. The coach does not have the answer, but relies on the client to reveal how they will be able to change and develop. Coaching develops rather than imposes, being reflective rather than directive. Coaching is not prescriptive or teaching. Rather it enables the client to discover their own strengths and their own solutions. Some changes will deal with one's personal affairs and others with how they do business wise. Coaching covers many aspect of individual performance, attitudes, and goal. For instance a client may benefit from personal or life coaching, coaching to change their life, such as parenting, personalgrowth, self-fullfillment and self-discovery. Career coaching works on areas such as advancement, or job choices , leadership and management, sales and business success, corporate performance and leader development.
Coaching is about getting the very best out of the one being coached. It is a form of enabling the client to make decisions that will enhance their life. Some people hire a coach to help them climb the corporate laddeer faster, feel more fulfilled at work, improve relations with everyone, especially family and co-workers. Some seek a coach to help them with their spiritual lives.
Whatever your reasons for hiring a coach, there's one out there for you.
If you want me to coach you, go to http://www.coach-charles.com/ and use the contact me page
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